It has been my goal to look at the Bible’s definition of what LOVE IS and hold that up to my definition of love. Yes, God’s definition will win out in my life every time. However without an intentional look at what God says love is, I will continue to love my way and not God’s. In August I looked at love is patient and love is kind.
Today I want to explore:
Here is what Merriam-Webster says that envy is– “painful or resentful awareness of an advantage enjoyed by another joined with a desire to possess the same advantage”. So to be envious I have to have painful and/or resentful thoughts/attitude toward someone that enjoys something that I want to enjoy myself.
Now, I typically don’t see myself as an “envious” person. I try very hard to be thankful for all the things that God has given to me because God has blessed me and my family a TON. But I don’t believe that envy applies only to material possessions. I believe it goes along with relationships and time and a host of other things.
I have noticed that sadly I do find myself thinking “Oh, I wish my husband would express his love to me like that…” Or “Oh, I wish I still had that close friendship with…” Or “Oh, I wish my children and I could…” And those are envious thoughts.
Thoughts of comparison usually lead to envy and envy is not love. So how can I stop the envy?? I believe it comes down to a few things:
- being thankful for the things God gives me, whether that is a relationship or a material blessing
- being thankful for the season I am in with relationships that God has given me
- trying to be the person that God has made ME to be
- not allowing myself to mindless scroll through Facebook and Instagram because this can lead to envy. Pastor Stephen Furtick says “We struggle with insecurity (and I would add envy) because we compare our behind-the scenes with everyone else’s highlight reel.” You don’t often see statuses or pics of people’s bad days and this is where social media gets me in trouble. Seeing the “highlight reel” and wishing for THAT rather than knowing that “real life” is happening but not being shared! Actually Pastor Furtick preached a great message about this very thing. You can find it at: http://elevationchurch.org/sermons/the-hope-of-glory The message you want to listen to is Part Four- The Problem with Pinterst.
I hope you will continue to join me as I learn to love God’s way.